Heyyyyy y’all!!! Happy mfn 2021!!!! How has 2021 been treating you so far??? Has she been good to you? Has she been a little b*tch? She been iight?? Let me know down below..
As for me….. let’s see. She came in with that bullsh*t but my best friend God said “AHT AHT! Don’t you start that foolishness!” And guess what??? She decided to chill on out.
And for the super deep churchy folk, I love God and still use a lil curse words here and there, and there, and over there, around there, and under there too… and guess what??? God still loves me the same. In this season, he isn’t focused on my cursing, cause Lord knows I got bigger fish to put on in the frying pan! Just thought I’d put that out there….
Anywho… God had to get little miss 2021 together real quick like hunni! Which has placed this specific topic on my spirit… which is, OWN YOUR SH*T!!!
I mean, to be honest, with the picture above I could just drop the mic and end it there, but y’all know I love to go in on a thing! So let’s get to it!
See, I know in the past I’ve spoken about holding self accountable for certain things that has happened in my life, and to a certain degree, I was, but with the light God has been shining in my life, babbyyyyy, I was still having that victim mentality. In other words, it’s safe to say I wasn’t truly accepting accountability. 🤦🏾♀️
I really did think I was though. I guess it just sounded good.
However what I’ve learned is that you cannot own your sh*t and still play a victim, pointing fingers at others at the same time. Like there’s just no way you can possibly do it.
Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t take away the fact that yes, others may have really wronged you. They may have hurt you. They may have done some jacked up mess to you. But when you FULLY own your sh*t you are able to say, you know what, I played a role in the situation as well. And you can then begin to be honest with yourself, and only then can you truly learn the lesson and pass the test. Cause let’s be honest, until you learn the lesson you will get the same test over and over and over again.
Let me give you an example. So… if you’ve been following my blog for a while, you’ll know that I haven’t always had the best luck with men and relationships 😬 hell, any luck to be completely honest. Before God opened my eyes completely, I used to say, yea, I allowed it to happen. I ignored the warnings blah blah blah, but I STILL pointed the finger at the guys. I still looked at it as if they were the worst people in the world for what they did to me, or shall I say, for what I allowed them to do to me.
I would still feel hurt. Bitter. Angry about what THEY did. I wasn’t fully owning my sh*t and being accountable. However now, I have this peace over me. It really doesn’t hurt the way it once did, because I am able to see much more clearer. Like fool! You bought half of the ish on yourself! Like for real for real. If I had some respect for myself, I wouldn’t have even wound up locking anything more than eyes with them people. If I valued myself, they wouldn’t have had the opportunity to even get a chance to hurt me.
I wouldn’t have even given them the time of the day. I am able to now, fully see how it has been me all along. And with that epiphany I am able to move to the next chapter and that is true healing!! That is when you can fully, authentically own your sh*t!!! That is when you are able to navigate things differently. That is when you are able to begin to really let that hurt go.. you know why?? Because you are no longer a damn victim and you’ll see that, 9 times out of 10, them people ain’t do hardly shit half as bad as what you did to your own damn self!
It all starts with you!!
So if you’re like the Erica I was, not too long ago, thinking you are taking accountability, owning your sh*t but you still pointing fingers, nahhhh baby, you still got a ways to go! Turn around and try it again.
I promise you. When you fully own your sh*t, a peace like no other will come over you and that sh*t them people did to you, will seem so small. Like, no it doesn’t erase what happened, but it will no longer hurt you the way it once did. You won’t look at them the way you once did. You won’t sit there and cry them victim tears that you once did. You won’t sit there and tell everybody with an ear willing to listen, what so and so did to you, cause you will see that, 9 times out of 10, in order for them to have done the mess they did, YOU allowed it!! You played just a big of a role as they did. They were doing it to you and you were right there along side them, doing it to your own self as well. Y’all were a team.
So, I dare you to look inward and really be brave enough to own your sh*t. You gotta put your big girl panties on. Them sexy panties, not the granny or that time of the month panties. This may not happen in one day. It may take time. But when you get it, sis, it will change your whole narrative and perspective.
And to my fellas who read my blog also, my apologies. I know y’all don’t wear panties, well, I don’t think you do. But, If you do, then that’s your business. But I’m sure you all are mature enough to still get the message that I am conveying, minus the panties 🤣
I love you all, and I pray that this will be a great year. A year of enlightenment. A year of success. A year of understanding. A year filled with blessings. I pray for peace for each and everyone of you.
I am currently working on a few things, but I won’t announce what specifically just yet. Just know, you won’t be disappointed.
I know it’s cliche, but New Year, New Me!!! Allow me to reintroduce myself 🖤😎🙈
IT’S THE NEW ME FOR ME…